Relations-Division of thoughts in Good & Bad

Division of thoughts in Good and Bad
Whether we want it or not, our mind processes many thoughts of many types all the time. Different thoughts just get into without permission. But, getting rid of these thoughts is difficult. Many just stay there for quiet a long time even if we try hard to put them aside. Some time we derive happiness from them but many times not. Definition of thoughts ‘whether good or bad’ may change with time and comfort level.
Every individual is made differently and owns a unique ‘3-Dimensions of thoughts (3-D)’. He/she spends time in that particular 3-D and decides the definition of thoughts, and categorise them as good or bad. It’s just next to impossible that 3-D’s of two persons overlap completely. What is wrong if a person is happy in his/her 3-D? If we put like this that a person doesn’t want to come out of his/her 3-D, is it good. They spend whole life believing that their 3-D is the best and doesn’t require any change. But, question arises that who is authorised to decide what is good and what is bad. Problem is that society is unable to create ideal person now. And this give a chance to possessor of evil 3-D to proclaim that when there is no one whom he/she can consider ideal then what is the use of words like good and bad.
Now a point comes that when that particular 3-D is a standard for him/her and he/she has no willingness to come out of that space, then why he/she is confused about good and bad. Is there any absolute good or bad but that is out of our boundaries and beyond our reach. If, there is nothing like good or bad then why there is satisfaction and good feeling in case of few incidences and bad memories/feelings after reversal of those incidences. Some time a person may feel good about some of his/her unconscious work even that habit doesn’t fall in his/her 3-D. Many time we feel good when someone else does something which might not be a part of our 3-D. Unconsciously we try to imitate that in our life, succeeding in that may not be of much importance. At that time we give up those things assuming that that is not in their control or by saying that all are not same or by assuming that I will not able to compete with another one. So, why we do such things or why we think in this way. What is that which is beyond our control, what is that which is known to everyone but no one understands it completely but knowingly or unknowingly we try to possess that?
It will be better for human being to believe that there is something which can be considered as absolute. Otherwise he/she will remain in confusion forever. There are circumstances which might create seen that everyone involved might think that even if others involved may be right but important that he/she is also right. This condition might push human race and relations towards permanent dryness. In such conditions only ‘ego’ dominates nothing else. And point is not people want to be part of such conditions even there may not be any inner urge.

Relations-Honesty

Honesty:

Perhaps there is no one in the world who can be called Honest. Honesty is not limited to transparency in monetary transactions, conversations and Human relations. Each has defined this term in his/her own way. For some, it is related to money only, for some it is about human relations, for many it is just telling clearly about oneself and for few it is about just acceptance of conclusions related to some matter.
Complete honesty is the convergence of Talk, Thought process and Implementations of those thoughts in deeds ultimately; in favour of Human kind. Many just Talk, Many just think and only few execute it. What most important is execution of Right thoughts. If a person is not honest in thinking process or talk but his/her execution represents the example of honesty, then it shall be sufficient for a human kind. If honesty stands for Goodness then sole purpose of this shall be to satisfy souls of others positively. This is an art which might resemble to trick or gimmick some time but many feel good ultimately or results show welfare of many, then it becomes the symbol of Goodness.
If positive intentions are removed from any action then there is no difference between so called terms: good and bad. Many times in Relations, a person might not be aware about the result of action but has sense of doing it then the Timings of that action become crucial. Timings of honesty in revelation of any matter directly depend on the Effect on receiver. If it affects the receiver negatively or result is very painful then such talks can not be categorised as honesty.
Now question arises is how to identify the suitable timing of revelation to particular person. It is the critical understanding of circumstances, and morals/beliefs and mental condition of opposite person. In many cases, when it is difficult to understand the Acceptance criteria of any action by receiver then honest person shall adhere to right timings when he/she doesn’t feel burden of understanding other person’s requirements.
If circumstances indicate that right timings of revelation have passed then it is always better to keep that matter to himself/herself rather than spoiling the mental condition of other person. Then it is onus on honest person to prove his goodness before the other person over a period of time by fulfilling the requirements of other person in right way. When conditions are favouring their relation and both are completely dedicated to one another without any doubt in minds of both parties, then those matters can be revealed. Right intentions always can be proven and deserve the triumph.